SAFETY IN TIMES OF #MeToo

SAFETY IN TIMES OF #MeToo

#MeToo and #MeTooIndia are the best things that are happening to Indian society right now. Sexual harassment is a nasty practice and deserves to stop. Revelation of identities of predators, howsoever late after the incident, is after all only revelation of truth. Truth is always liberating. It deserves to be embraced. Workplaces must be safe for the female workforce for achieving productivity.

However if the movement has to serve its purpose, frivolous complaints must be avoided at all costs, as otherwise the movement is bound to lose its steam and relevance. There should be differentiation between say a gaze, a bad touch and stalking. All must be addressed promptly but all these cannot be treated with same severity.

Men, especially men in positions of power are particularly at risk. They have to deal with women in the course of their official duties and many a time may have to refuse many requests for favors or lenience. These refusals to grant favors must not lead to vindictive complaints against them. For this purpose, men in positions of power have to be extra careful. It is suggested that the following guidelines should be followed.

·         Never agree to meet a woman outside your office or outside your office hours.

·         A woman who desires to meet you in your office must properly identify herself with accepted identity proofs and record her contact details with proper verification.

·         Wherever possible, insist that she must be accompanied by an escort.

·         A camera must watch and record her movements from the time she enters your office till the time she goes out.

·         Talk to her across a screen which has a ticket window in it. The window must be meshed. There should be a slot for passing documents for verification and return.

·         The entire conversation should be video recorded and the video file should be tagged with her identity proof and contact details and the file should be saved locally on your devices and also on the cloud.

·         If the woman in question appears to be a suspicious character or provocative, report to police and security as a precaution.

·         If you have been threatened during the interaction by her, lodge a police complaint against her without fail

Hopefully this will avoid unnecessary embarrassment with false complaints.

I MUST WORK BECAUSE:

I MUST WORK BECAUSE:

• It is good for health. It provides regular exercise to body and mind.
• It gives one respect in society and family.
• It exposes one to traffic, sunlight and dust. Helps to build immunity and ruggedness.
• The income earned can give me an opportunity to spend more on

1. Better food
2. Better clothes and accessories.
3. Better housing.
4. Better gadgets and appliances.
5. Better Medicare.
6. Better services e.g. travel tourism and entertainment.
7. Better gifts to my children and their families.

DISADVANTAGES:

Increased risk of road accidents.

OLD MEN AND THEIR PROBLEMS

1.  HEALTH ISSUES: typically diabetes, hyper tension, cholesterol, osteoporosis, cataract, etc.

2.  SEXUAL HEALTH: erectile dysfunction (less frequent, less stiff erections), less stamina (for penetration and copulation), reduced output of semen.

3.  LACK OF OPPORTUNITIES: difficult to get young women as they want to either marry rich old guys and live in comfort and luxury or marry young men and be productive; work, earn, procreate.

4.  SOCIAL RESTRICTIONS: societies do not expect old men to be bubbly, chirpy, lusty, joyful or boisterous but be grumpy, grouchy, dejected and play their age by looking like waiting for the inevitable death. This sort of self fulfilling prophecy leads to depression, sickness and may drive old men into contacts with gays, prostitutes, kids, transgender persons, drugs or lead to incest or rapes. 

5.  DESIRE: sexual desire lives on and increases due to social restrictions and lack of opportunities.

6.  SOLUTION: Live with your spouse or independently as long as you can. Exercise and be fit. Pray regularly. Within your means enjoy what all you can afford - good food, moderate consumption of alcohol/ tobacco, music, films, internet, politics, current affairs, media and masturbation.

7. BE POSITIVE: Most importantly, be positive towards family members, young persons and everyone in general.

skewed morals

The ISIS says that it is in accordance with Muslim Law Shariah to capture women in war and then to enslave, sell or keep them as concubines. The question is not whether it is right or wrong. They are merely playing upon skewed morality of present times and in modern societies.

In our times, homosexuality is considered fashionable. Even the Vatican is considering welcoming gays and lesbians but a heterosexual relationship is frowned upon in all circumstances except within the confines of marriage. If a woman exposes, she is bold and beautiful, whereas a man who exposes, even unintentionally, is a “dirty uncle”. Same sex marriages are considered in tune with times but youngsters think for years before committing in a heterosexual relationship. They delay child bearing for as long as possible. The balance of power is tilted dangerously in favor of the wife in marriage. Men are henpecked. Prostitutes and pimps are harassed no end. 

Naturally most males are sex starved. The offer of ISIS is an incentive to young men to join them. With this promise of women slaves becoming available, even a non Muslim young man would be motivated to join the jihadists.

Lust vs Love

Lust is unavoidable but why love?

कुलदीप राय

कुलदीप राय

हे कृष्ण

हे कृष्ण, हे मुकुंद हे मुरारी
हे गोविन्द हे गोपाल हे गिरिधारी
हे माधव हे यादव हे मधुसूदन
त्राहि माँम  त्राहि माँम त्राहि माँम